The Best Strap-On Dildos, Harnesses, and Sets for Everyone
No matter how you were introduced to the wide world of the best strap-on dildos and harnesses—whether through an eager partner or perhaps that one episode of Broad City—there’s plenty of fun to be had here. Strap-ons help people of any gender experiment with new positions and get intimate in ways that their anatomy might not allow otherwise. But with so many options out there and so much hardware to use, getting started can be daunting. Here’s everything you need to know if you’re looking to shake things up in bed, plus tons of strap-on options for everyone.
What are strap-on dildos?
Strap-ons are dildos and vibrators designed to allow someone (usually, but not always, a person with a vagina) to penetrate a partner vaginally, anally, or orally. Most are held in place by harnesses, although some vibrating dildos are designed to be worn solo by people with vaginas. Colloquially, when a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate a man’s anus—which can be incredibly fun for everyone involved, by the way—the act is known as pegging.
Since a strap-on is a sex toy that’s designed to be used with a partner, it’s important to have a discussion before getting down to business. What does the partner on the receiving end want? What are they comfortable with? How important are length and girth? Make sure that you and your partner are 100% on the same page before making an investment in the best dildos.
There are two ways to go about your search: looking for a strap-on set or searching for a dildo and a harness separately. Choosing a kit is typically the less intimidating route, and one that certified sex educator and relationship expert Dainis Graveris recommends to first-timers. On the other hand, “The best way to play with strap-ons might be to choose the harness you love and the dildo you or your partner loves,” explains Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Queen, PhD; buying them separately allows you to cater more to your own personal preferences.
How should you choose a harness?
There are several varieties, according to Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven: jock-style harnesses, which leave your butt exposed; underwear harnesses, which look like regular briefs or panties; and corset-style harnesses, which are similar to jockstraps but involve more lacing. Another less common option is a two-hole harness, which can be used with two dildos or a single dildo and a penis for double penetration. If you’d rather skip the harness thing entirely, strapless dildos are wearable and can be inserted into your vagina and held in place hands-free, kind of like the ultimate Kegel exercise.
Materials should also factor into your decision. Webbing and fabric are the most basic materials, but you can also opt for leather. While the latter is sturdy, it’s also more porous and harder to clean; fabric is generally more comfortable and usually machine-washable. “You can also choose harnesses that look more masculine (with plain fabric or muted colors), skew more feminine (with details like lace), or even BDSM-inspired (with studs and leather), depending on the preferences of you and your partner,” says Sparks.
If you’re not sure of the right size or you’ll be sharing your pick with a partner, adjustable harnesses can be resized as needed—and certain options can even accommodate packers or panty vibrators. Most harnesses also feature stabilizers or O-rings, which is the mechanism that keeps strap-on sex toys in place; just make sure it’s the correct size for the one you're using. And dildos with flared bases (think suction-cup dildos) are often also harness-compatible.
How should you choose a strap-on dildo?
Once you decide on going with a kit or à la carte, your next variable is the dildo itself. When you’re selecting a dildo, it’s best to work your way up to the bigger stuff, per clinical sexologist Rachel Sommer, PhD. “If you’re new to strap-on play, I recommend starting slow and building the momentum as you carry on,” she says. “Start with a small model.”
Look at each option’s girth and insertable length. Consider where you’ll be inserting the strap-on—a partner’s anus or vagina, usually—and chat about what will feel best. You don’t have to go huge to get the most pleasure from strapping or pegging, especially if your partner is new to anal sex. There’s an option for everyone along the spectrum of length and girth. (If you have a penis, you can also wear a hollow strap-on over your member to add length and girth.)
Shape is another important factor. Plenty of dildos are meant to be extremely realistic, with lifelike molding and dual-density designs that mimic the feeling of real penises. That could turn you and your partner on, especially if you don’t have a penis of your own—but if you’d rather keep your bedroom penis-free, plenty of dildos are more abstract. Look for designs that curve up, which will allow you to hit your partner’s prostate or G-spot with ease.
As far as materials go, the answer is clear: Stick with silicone dildos, as anything too hard can be dangerous. “No super-hard dildo material when you are strapping on!” Queen warns. “A wonky thrust can hurt someone if the dildo is glass, metal, stone, and so on.”
Before you start playing, make sure there’s plenty of personal lubricant on hand. Whether you’re using a dildo to penetrate vaginally or for anal play, lube makes things a lot more fun and frictionless. Anal lube is especially important, as the anus doesn’t naturally lubricate itself—and make sure you’re using water-based lube, since silicone-based formulas can actually cause silicone straps to start breaking down.
Ready to dive in? These are the best strap-on dildos, harnesses, and kits to try now.
Our top picks:
- Best Overall Set: Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit, $45
- Best Set for Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit, $45
- Best Harness: Spareparts Hardwear Joque Harness, $135
- Best Dildo: Vixen Mustang VixSkin Realistic Dildo, $140
- Best Wearable Dildo: Lovehoney Posable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On, $80
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Best Overall Set: Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit
Although Lovehoney has a smaller set available (we’ll get to it in a minute), this one is perhaps the most versatile. With six inches of insertable length and a circumference just under five inches, it’s not as intimidating as it looks, but can still please both newcomers and experts. (That gentle curve is sure to be a hit too.) The machine-washable harness comes with a pocket for a vibrator and adjustable straps that shift from 28 to 65 inches. Plus, when you’re ready to bring another dildo into the mix, this kit comes with three interchangeable O-rings to accommodate any toy of your choice.
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Best Value Set: Sportsheets New Comers Strap-On Dildo Set
This jock-style four-way harness is another great option for beginners or folks who want a one-and-done shopping experience. Recommended by Queen, it includes a fun purple dildo made of body-safe silicone and a comfortable polyester harness that sizes up to 60 inches around the waistline. The dildo is on the more slender side, but it’s also totally interchangeable if you have other preferences—just keep in mind that this harness will fit only other dildos up to 1.25 centimeters in diameter.
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Best Set for Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit
Graveris likes this Lovehoney strap-on harness kit for beginners since it’s designed to be as seamless as possible. It’s got the same ultra-adjustable harness at the first Lovehoney kit, ensuring every wearer gets the perfect fit, plus a set of three O-rings that’ll help you graduate to something bigger if you ever want to. The dildo is five inches long and three inches thick—a nice entry-level size for those who are new to pegging and want to start with a more petite shaft.
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Best Advanced Set: Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Realistic Feel Advanced Strap-On Dildo Set
You’ll more than get your money’s worth from this set, which includes an adjustable harness, three large, lifelike dildos, and everything else you’ll need for endless fun: O-rings, lube, and sex toy cleaner. You can attach each of the dildos to the harness, but also to the Vac-U-Lock base, which affixes to any hard surface.
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Best Vibrating Set: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set
If all you’re looking for is a one-and-done strap-on set, Sparks recommends this option from Happy Rabbit. It’s truly the full package, featuring a rabbit vibrator you can use with or without the harness—so it’s perfect for those who need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. There are also three interchangeable O-rings if you do decide to swap out the rabbit for another dildo. You’ll also get a jock-style harness that’s adjustable and fits waists up to 67 inches.
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Best Set for Pegging: Pegasus Curved Realistic Harness Set
The Pegasus harness bundle includes everything you’d need for a fun pegging experience: a jock-style harness and a vibrating, remote-controlled dildo that you can even take underwater. Queen recommends this set, which is catered to receivers who prefer deeper, more curved penetration that perfectly hits the P-spot. If you want to switch out the dildo in question, just look for another one that features a suction cup base.
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Best Set for Penises: Doc Johnson Body Extensions BE Bold
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Best Harness: Spareparts Hardwear Joque Harness
If you’d prefer to pick and choose your harness and dildo separately, Sparks tells Glamour that the Joque—aptly named for its jock-style design—is a best-selling option thanks to its ease of use. It has adjustable waist and leg straps for added comfort and support, with a built-in O-ring that’ll stretch between 1.25 and 2 inches to make room for a dildo with a flared base. For more stimulation, Sparks notes, the Joque features pouches above and below the O-ring that can hold a bullet vibrator.
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Best Underwear Harness: CalExotics Packer Gear Boxer Brief Harness
Some tops like to keep things low-key with harnesses. While they look like everyday underpants, this unisex pair of CalExotics briefs is actually sturdy enough to hold a dildo in place while in use. It features two pockets for vibrators or packers, plus a 1.5-inch silicone O-ring that can fit most dildos with a flared base. You might also love that the front opens up completely, meaning there’s room to insert a double dildo if that’s more your speed. It’s available in a wide range of different sizes too.
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SpareParts Sasha Couture Harness
Here’s a va-va-voom lingerie-style harness, accentuated by a lace trim and detachable garters, that Queen likes for its comfy, high-quality stretch fabric. It can accommodate dildos that are 1.25 to 2.25 inches in diameter. If your fetish fantasy involved something with a little more personality than the typical webbed harness, this one is your ticket.
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Best Dildo: Vixen Mustang VixSkin Realistic Dildo
Made of body-safe silicone, this lifelike dildo features 6.5 inches of insertable length and five inches of circumference—it’s big but not too big. (Think of it as the Goldilocks of dildos.) The curved shaft and pronounced head hit all the right spots, and it comes in a variety of flesh tones, plus a rainbow option if you’re more into the fantasy of it all. Plus, the suction cup base means you can attach it to any smooth surface and use it solo.
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Best Wearable Dildo: Lovehoney Posable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On
This strapless strap-on dildo has a removable bullet vibrator with three speeds and seven vibration patterns. The textured shaft is 6.5 inches long and 4.5 inches wide, with a curving silhouette that’s adept at G-spot or prostate stimulation. “The shaft used for penetration is rippled for additional sensation and can be posed and positioned to hit the internal spots that do the trick for your partner,” Kate Balestrieri, PsyD, a certified sex therapist, tells Glamour. Bonus: It’s bath- and shower-sex-friendly.
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Best Dildo for Beginners: Unbound Pogo
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Best Vibrating Dildo: Blush Impressions Las Vegas Vibrating Dildo
This vibrating strap-on offers a more abstract take on the dildo, featuring fire engine-red silicone and a flared head for plenty of knee-weakening sensations. It boasts 10 unique vibration modes and waterproofing, and it’s one of the only G-spot vibrators to have a suction cup base for solo use. And don’t worry about having to replace batteries: This thing’s rechargeable.
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Best BDSM Set: Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit
Ready to explore even more of your sexual fantasies at once? This BDSM kit from Lovehoney has the aforementioned harness kit accompanied by a huge variety of kinky sex accouterments, including a ball gag, a blindfold, and nipple stimulators. It’s the ultimate night in for the adventurous couple.
